As parents approach the end of school, you may also experience sadness due to expectations that were not met. Are you asking: 1. Why did my child not progress as much as I thought he would? 2. What should I have done differently? 3. Why did the teacher not push harder? 4. Why did the long hours of homework, therapy, and frustration not “pay off”? Making a list of your child’s accomplishments for this semester may help you see his progress! Try to focus on even little things as they do indicate that your child has moved forward. Though it may appear that struggles outweigh progress, focus on the accomplishments and praise your child. He needs your praise and encouragement to keep trying! Please seek professional […]
As summer rapidly approaches, your child may experience joy about the end of school mixed with sadness. Promotion to the next grade level is exciting but may cause anxiety about the new teacher and new classmates as well as leaving the familiar teacher. Be aware of these mixed emotions and help your child work through the anxiety. Anxiety can look like sadness, irritability, acting out in school. Some things to think about doing before school is out: Visit the new grade level and look at the classrooms, meet the teachers. Help your child write a story about this year’s good and bad times. Then add his expectations about next year. For younger children, have them tell you the story. Note fears and help your child […]
Your child struggled, he was tested by professionals, but you: Felt that the results did not reflect your child as you know him; Felt totally overwhelmed by the results and do not know what to do next; Agreed with the results, looked to put in place the recommendations but became bogged down; Agreed with the results, contacted the recommended professionals; found no one you cared to work with; stopped. Agreed with the results, contacted the recommended professionals and have things in place. Which route did you take? Its never too late to get started again! Find a support person or group to help you move forward. It can take alot of energy to put a plan in place but it is very important to do so […]
If you do decide to take a break from tutoring/therapy during the summer, its important to do the following: Ask your therapist/tutor for her opinion. Consult your doctor if there is a medical condition that requires ongoing therapy. If they agree, then together decide on activities that will help with the goals you all have decided on. Choose fun, realistic ones. Make a commitment to set aside a specific time during the summer days to continue to work on the above activities. Some children lose what they have learned unless reinforced. Have a specific date to begin therapy/tutoring again. If you don’t, it will be easy to not start again. Make it clear to the therapist/tutor what your plans are for the school year. Will […]
Often summer is a time of guilt for families with children who have learning differences, even mild ones. Some of the questions I hear as a therapist include: How should we juggle vacation, camps, therapy/tutoring? Should I let my child drop tutoring for the summer because he needs a break from so much school work? If I do, will he fall further behind or lose all he learned this past year? What about my other children? They need a “normal” summer with activities focused on them for a change! What about me? I have worked hard all year trying to keep things running smoothly! Guilt: What to do with it? Do you have suggestions?
Once your child has been evaluated and a diagnosis made, its not uncommon for parents to feel a wide range of emotions. They may feel relief that there is something wrong with their child and not their parenting skills. They may feel anger toward the examiner for finding something wrong with their child. They may feel anger at their child for not meeting their own expectations. They may feel anger toward the school for not identifying the problems earlier. They may feel anger toward God for allowing this. The list goes on. Anger is part of the grieving process. Its o.k. to be angry but your actions should ALWAYS reflect encouragement and love toward your child. Each child is designed by God for His plan. […]